Over the past decade, texting has become a quick, convenient way to relate with family, friends and loved ones – plus it allows you to be witty because you’ve had the time to think of something clever. A funny text can save an awkward situation, make someone’s day, or at the very least, remind them of your existence. However, there’s a time and a place for everything and sometimes, your boyfriend/girlfriend’s inbox just isn’t it. Here are six messages you should never send:
Texting the Three Little Words First
This is actually nice, sweet in fact but it’s still an awful thing to do via text. It depicts you as being too casual, insincere even, and puts the respondent in an awkward situation. What if (s)he isn’t at that point yet? Maybe it’s okay if you’ve been dating for a while and you’re comfortable enough throwing those three little words around. If not, save the first “I love you” for a face-to-face interaction.
Last Minute Cancellations
It sucks to disappoint people, but if you’ve got a valid reason, it’s important that you call and explain the situation. Whatever you’re missing, whether it’s a lunch date, hangout or a study session, they’re already going to be upset that you won’t be there. Don’t add insult to misery by letting them wonder why you bailed. Never settle for a quick text; playing it cool might just pass you up as an insensitive person. Show you really care by putting in a little extra effort — call, apologize and promise you’ll make it up soon.
Saying you’re sorry.
If you’ve messed up somehow, there’s more to be expected from you than just a text. And this isn’t just about apologizing; your friend might be looking for someone to lend him/her a shoulder. Don’t just say “I’m sorry” and stop there; a little empathy goes a long way. If your girlfriend/boyfriend say’s they’re feeling unwell, just pick up the phone and call them – replying with ‘sorry :(’ doesn’t cut it at all.
The Happy Birthday
A celebratory text may be nice for less personally relevant holidays — Christmas, Easter, or even Children’s day (lol) — but that’s about it. While you don’t have to organize a carnival your loved one’s birthday comes up just once a year and it should be treated like a special occasion. No matter how little attention he/she seems to give it, nobody is too cool for birthdays. Save the boring text for a more ordinary day.
If you feel you deserve an explanation for why he/she hasn’t responded to your text in three hours, it’s best not to jump to any conclusions. It’s possible you may have just misunderstood the situation, and an angry text can be especially hurtful if your allegations are inaccurate. It’s almost impossible to distinguish your tone in a text and someone may feel attacked. Texting is never the way to make your grievances known. Set aside a time to talk things through; the delay will allow you some extra time to gather your thoughts to save yourself from blurting out a regretful, poorly phrased accusation.
It’s obvious what you’re trying to do here: avoid the awkwardness of face-to-face interaction and the possibility of a long, upsetting conversation. Brilliant! Except that it’s disrespectful and ten times more hurtful than it could be otherwise. If you shared a relationship with someone, he/she deserves legitimate closure. Swallow your pride and say it to their face.