8 Things Women wish Men knew

Between musings about the latest tech gadget and last night’s football match, one of the things that cross the mind of every man is to know what’s going on in the deep recesses of a woman’s mind. Well, guys, here’s your chance. We’re going to let you in on some of the things women wish men knew (yes this is entirely from a woman’s perspective).

1. Just hear her out

This is at the top of every “things women wish men knew”. While women appreciate our desire to solve their problems, that’s not always what they need. Sometimes they just need to talk things out and feel like they’re being heard. When they do, try not to drift off into space or mentally draw things on their faces the way we usually do when we get lectures from our mothers. Just listen, respond and get through it.

2. Notice her

Women don’t expect men to fawn over their new haircut the way their girlfriends would, but noticing small things and complimenting them goes a long way. There are couples who still laugh and admire each other after over fifty years together. Think about it.

3. Pay attention

If she asks you to do something or otherwise speak to you, respond with something other than a grunt and a nod. I understand ignoring nagging, but this sort of thing is part of what makes some women want to nag. When you consistently ignore what she says or pay more attention to your computer than you do to her, she’ll feel like I don’t matter.

4. Let her hold the remote control once in a while

At least once, stop flipping the channels when you’re watching a program together. Ditto the radio. Watching one commercial won’t kill you.

5. Turning down sex is nothing personal

A lot of men feel rejected as a person when their wife refuses sex. One important thing to remember though: more often than not, it’s the sex that’s being rejected, not you. Contrary to popular belief, most women don’t use sex as a weapon. If (or when) they do, trust me, you’ll know.

7. Put her first

Women want to know that they’re priority, not your work or your friends. They’re not saying you have to abandon other important people or things, but being in “second place” gets old really quickly.

8. A helpful man is a hot man

Please help her around the house/with the kids/with errands. Don’t leave everything around for her to clean or ignore a dirty diaper. You have the same number of hands and feet as they do. If you think “that it’s all a woman’s work”, then there’ll be one who agrees with you – but there’s none.

9. Chivalry isn’t dead

You might be thinking 21st century but old-fashioned deference is still appreciated. Forget what the feminists say, even the most liberated woman likes to have a door opened for them once in a while. They may not expect it, but it’s still a nice gesture.