Why there’s no shame in getting away from it all and going home for the weekend every now and then.
If I had a journal it would read like this:
“Last week, I had a bad sore throat and could not get any rest, partly because of noisy housemates (shouting them down was a no-no) and partly because of school anxieties. To make matters worse, exams were really close so any chance of me getting a good night’s sleep suddenly went out the window.
I couldn’t take it anymore, so I decided to return to my home in Abeokuta for the weekend- something I hadn’t done in four months. It turns out that was the remedy I needed. My sore throat gradually became better and I finally was able to sleep for several hours without being interrupted. It felt good to get away.”
I like being in school but it just has a way of wearing someone down sometimes. I don’t know how to explain it, but it could be a mixture between the stress of schoolwork and seeing the same kinds of people everyday. It gets tiring rather quickly, so a change of scenery is always nice. People tend to be less stressed and more energetic after vacations, according to the Journal of Occupational Health. That’s all these trips home really are: mini-vacations with the same long-term benefits. Why don’t students take more advantage of them?
This may have to do with the notion of going home frequently being an indicator of somebody being too dependent on their parents. Yes, it’s true that students do not have to go home every single weekend (or is this because I attended boarding school?). They still should be able to experience campus life. But while I’m not advocating students go home all the time, every so often could be beneficial.
It’s about a lot more than just being dependent on parents. It is about reconnecting with friends back home, escaping the noise and crowd and not feeling too bogged down by the college scene. Those are all good things. School is fun, but it does reach a point when it gets to be too much, at least for me.
I am aware monthly home visits aren’t going to be for everyone. Some live in difficult family situations they would rather not return to and some have jobs or small businesses that require them to be in school most of the time. Both of these reasons are valid. I also don’t want to force people to go home for the weekend just because I’ve enjoyed it. I just want people to know they have that option, and they shouldn’t have to feel ashamed of it. I would suggest most people, especially those still adjusting to college life, to try it for at least once a month. You might find it works to keep your mind at ease.