You log into Facebook and it’s happening again: some political sentiment has sparked a flame-war and everyone seems to want to weigh in with a jab, meme, attack or (arguably worst of all) a wall of text that begs for you to “see more.” And of course you’re in the unenviable position of having to sort out all this nonsense by offering a well-reasoned retort that causes all parties to stop and think for a moment, thereby defusing a potential social media meltdown.
Jokes aside, Facebook seems to be the preferred place—beside the shark-infested waters of a news story’s comments section—to duke it out politically. Sad as it is, Christians often seem to be among the rudest participants, particularly when their religious beliefs are often inextricably tied to their political persuasion.
Is there a proper way to have a political discussion on Facebook? Perhaps there is—but not always. Here are a few things to consider doing (and avoiding) when entering a heated political discussion in the social media sphere.
Always be gracious
Your default mode should be one of deference, not one of defense. In Paul’s epistle to the Colossians he implores the Church to let their speech “always be gracious,” drawing an analogy to seasoning a conversation with salt. Your input shouldn’t leave a bitter taste in anyone’s mouth, even if they disagree with you. Learn to state an opinion in such a way that it won’t chafe but instead invite fruitful discussion.
Understand that everyone’s entitled to an opinion
This isn’t to say all opinions are equal (naturally you would trust your physician’s opinion about your sore throat over your barber’s); simply that having one, even an uninformed one, is all right. Furthermore, always bear in mind that your opinion isn’t the only valid one, so seek truth and wisdom if it can be found in the words of someone you might not agree with.
Don’t argue with the intent to “win”
Discuss with the intent to understand. Although the impulse in a political discussion is to correct someone, you’re unlikely to do so effectively if you can’t see where he or she is coming from. Before even attempting to offer an opinion or counter-argument, try understanding their position and why they hold it. You may find some common ground, providing a starting point for your conversation.
Never use abusive language
Remember, Facebook is super-public, and any number of people could use your words against you. Beyond that, and far more importantly, is that you are meant to represent Christ always. Yes, even on Facebook. Humility in a heated discussion speaks volumes. (Also, this is a good time for a reminder that if you wouldn’t want your parents to see your profile photo, it probably doesn’t represent your best side and maybe you should consider changing it.)
Admit when you’re wrong, when you’re unsure and when you’ve been unkind
There’s absolutely no worth in defending yourself when you’re wrong, and you have everything to gain by offering the olive branch of “you know, I never thought of it that way! Thanks for enlightening me!”
Sometimes it’s just not worth jumping in
There are discussions to be avoided like the plague, and it’s almost never a good idea to step in with the idea of sorting them out. If you’re not likely to contribute something the brawler will find worthwhile, leave them to their own devices. You’ll be better for it.
Know when to bow out, and do so with every ounce of kindness you can muster
There will be times when you can’t find common ground, your sincerest questions are met with derision and you get drowned out by a half-dozen other voices that disagree with you. The tendency to try and defend yourself against all of them will only leave you frustrated and them angry. Tell them it’s clear you’re not going to change any minds, thanks for listening to you and you value their opinions on the matter. Then make your exit.
The golden rule that ties all of these together is stated in the form of a question: Should I really say anything? In many instances the answer may be “no.” If you can’t contribute something honest, kind or necessary, there’s really no point in offering your two cents.